Mental Health has never been given enough attention. We get flu shots, we even give our pets Rabies Vaccinations but we never think to safe guarding our emotional life. Recently Princes William and Harry along with the Duchess of Cambridge began a campaign to draw mental illness out of the shadows and encourage anyone and everyone to seek help. The princes shared their personal stories of dealing with the grief of loosing their beloved mother, Diana, Princess of Wales. The Duchess of Cambridge is speaking about her feelings of isolation after the births of her children. So essentially Postpartum Depression, I guess. There is incredible stigma attached to admitting any kind of depression, anxiety, or “blue” moods. It is very encouraging to see these three people especially coming out and attempting to remove the fear of speaking up and reaching out for help. But it is much more than that, mental illness often manifests in rage, anger, and violence not in depression and anxiety only. You cant tell me someone willing to strap on a suicide vest is mentally and emotionally healthy and well adjusted. Neither is the person tailgating you in traffic trying to intimidate you into running that red light so they can laugh at you while you are being loaded in the ambulance after the wreck is over. True story.
I have tried with absolutely no success to suggest to a verbally abusive, violent, sociopath that seeking professional help was in their best interests. I was punched in the face for my efforts. How do you help someone who doesn’t think they need help and wouldn’t admitted it if they did? You don’t, you help your self. It is difficult for me to imagine living in any developed or developing nation on this planet right now and not having mental health issues of some kind. Times are extremely stressful with very little relief. There doesn’t seem to be a way of escaping everything that is happening right now. My advice is to seek help and support even if you think you are just fine, because, you are not okay. The more you deep breath and tell yourself you are, the closer you get to standing on an over pass and dropping bricks on the passing cars below. Or walking into a crowd of people and hacking your way through with a knife. Or driving onto a busy sidewalk filled with people you believe are so different from you they just don’t deserve to breath. Politics, Religion, Relationships, Money, Illness, Loss, Grief, Anger, Rage, Sorrow, Addiction, Pain! This and so much more drives the state of your mental health. You may not even know what your trigger is. It could be so buried beneath the machinations of getting through your day that you never realize what you are doing. But it is there hiding behind religious beliefs that limit and degrade your self worth, racism that you don’t even realize is racism, and so much more. Your normal is most likely, not normal. I know mine isn’t. I struggle against my programming every day. I am a woman born in the south in the 1960’s out of wedlock. My childhood was a nightmare. I tried “talk” therapy after the birth of my first child. My mother told me that because I had been abused as a child I would most likely abuse my children. Very insightful of her except for the fact that she was one of my abusers. I have never abused anything or any one. But no thanks to her. Talking about stuff was very helpful until I realized there was just too much stuff to talk about. A one hour session wasn’t enough time to drag out all the boxes and take inventory of my pain. The past was stealing the happiness from the present and future. I found my salvation in meditation, finding that quiet, calm, empty place inside me. Some days the empty started out a little crowded but with breath work and patience I was able to let go. My saving grace has always been my children. I have never been a drinker, so that glass of wine at the end of the day has never been my thing. Actually exercise, yoga, rowing, bouncing on my mini trampoline, playing with my dogs have become my most recent “de-stressers”. Not sure if that is a word, ha ha, is now.
My intention is to share just a little so you know and understand everyone has a story. No one is okay, and that is okay as long as you are a work in progress. Talk, if it works for you. Run, play golf, swim, join a support group, volunteer at your local shelter, or library. Find something that feeds your soul and the good that is in you. Understand that you are the only one who is responsible for your state of being. You are the only person who can create change of any kind in your life. Don’t give your power away. It is so easy right now to get caught up in the negative aspect of what is happening in the world around us. Anger seems to be easier to get to than compassion. And compassion is exactly what is needed. Remember, you are important. It is important that you are here. Be kind to every thing but most especially yourself.
There are some wonderful therapies available that can be easily and quickly learned and just as easily and effectively applied. Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping is one of the most amazing tools I have ever learned. Finding a counselor, a mental health professional is paramount. This does not mean you are mentally ill. It is not a stigma, everyone goes through dark and difficult times. What makes the difference is the people who reach out for support and healing. We heal the body, now let’s heal the mind and spirit. You must establish your practice and remain faithful for your own well being. Self medicating with food, drugs, sex, or what ever only creates more chaos and suffering. This may sound stupid but the more you resist creating your own personal healing the more you personally contribute to the death, mayhem and destruction going on in the world right now. You do not live in a vacuum and you are a vibrational being. You can choose to radiate peace, love, healing, grace, and gratitude out into the world or you can continue to contribute to the problem. Thoughts are pure energy, words, deeds, emotions, all of it pure energy sent out into creation. We are all creators constantly reforming and reshaping reality or at least our version of it. Below are some links to YouTube videos on tapping and stuff to support your peace, love, gratitude and healing.
This one may seem a little cheesy and not so easy to say but sooo very effective. Do a little research and suspend your desire to be negative and just shut up and do it. And I mean that in a very loving way.